the art of envy

" do you ever feel like you're down with your own envies ? "

hay folks, howdy?

I’m doing good rite now.

Yeah, despite of some my deadline task, I had such a great time with my girls.

Especially with ama-nadya-ari my closest friend, and of course my 4 days roommates Deisy (skip the things about deisy-lol)

Just like other girls we like gossiping, and it’s very human I thought, even I know that it’s a big sin actually.

Back with gossiping it self, we’re mostly talking about other girls in our school. Yeah, sometimes about how many ex/exes they got, how nerd they are, how pretty some of them, and how luck they are to be absolutely listed as “gaul”.

Few days ago, when we’re gossiping about how could some of the “it” girls so pretty, even with or without make up (because they’re good about make up and totally into it)

Ama-nadya-ari and of course I, we’re talking about them. No hurt feeling at all, we just find out that gossiping is totally fun (lol)

But then I’ve just wondering why they could be like that?

They are so beautiful, pretty, charming and good at English. Oh my goodness, I envy them like crazy.

Have you ever feel like what I feel? Oh don’t be so naive dearest reader. E.N.V.Y is something which is really human (just like gossiping).

And I’m suddenly backed into silence as well.

When, my friend said that Ms. A is pretty, deep down in my heart, I want her (my friend) said that I’m pretty too. Yes, I’m absolutely envy. I do. So what?

Well, as time pass by I know that even envy is very human, I could minimize my envies.

I realized that envy is actually just a matter of mind, when our mind is full of negative things, and we’re started to counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of our own.

In case I ever (and often) being in this trouble-envying someone even just my brother- here they go my amateur envies solving problem.

Firstly, as I said before envy is something in common that you feel when you’re mind full of negative things. So, dear readers come out the boundaries and think positive!

Napoleon Hill once said, “no one can make you jealous, angry, vengeful, or greedy, unless you let him”

What are you waiting for? Let get your mind some positive things in common dear

Then, one thing you have to remember, NOBODY IS PERFECT!

Even the prettiest girl in the whole earth has her own limit. Well, sometimes instead of that kind of exterior, their life is not as easy as what we thought.

The prettiest girl in the world maybe ever being in her lowest point.

Or the smartest person in the whole universe ever being stuck with his formulas.

Dear reader, if you can take your eyes off others, and take the scanner within, you’ll find so many bad things happened even for the luckiest one.

Last but not least, you have to remember that everything is come at the rite time. Happiness, sadness, and all the great and worst things in your life are come at the rite time.

In my point of view, I thrust everything is come in reason, even when we’re not wise to see it-just like Oprah Winfrey said.

Dear readers, nowadays if you still keeping up your envies towards others you’ll ends up with no friends.

Once again darling, just believe in your self that your time will come!

For sure it will bring you double happiness!

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xoxo!

MOOD KILLER INSTEAD OF MOOD HEALER

“Some people are passionate about science, some about fashion, others about art, and others about making your mood drowning into the deep sea of madness ”

Hay Folks! How your mood today? Is it good or bad?

I’m in a good mood rite now. But I don’t know why, I just remember the day that I had such a BAD mood.

Well, just in case you need my tips LOL-ing

I was about searching something in front of my computer and looking for something that I need. Then my cell-phone was rigging. It was my old friend calling. He had something to tell me about one event, and he want to join him too.

I said that I had something to do on that day. Much more better if he asked me weeks ago.

Then you know what’s going on? He was mad at me. He said that I’m selfish! He said that I can’t understand his feeling. It’s like, oh my God what are you talking about? Is that a sin that I couldn’t accompany you? WTF

Other day, a friend of mine calls me B-I-T-C-H at my back. You know why? Because she thought that I chase her boyfriend. Oh damn, it’s like hellooooo… who are you and who your boyfriend is? Fyi, I’ve been a good friend with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is my best buddy since junior high school, and I know him before he was in-relationship with her! I couldn’t help but realize that I’m in the boiling point!

No, I’m not finish yet. The other day when I had English mid test, my friend was asking me some answer (cheating). And then I told him my answer, but then I said that I’m not really sure about my answer. Much more better if he asked others too (the more answer, the more option). Minutes later, he poked my back and said, “ly, I thought the answer is not B but D” then I replied, “I told you that I don’t know. I was unsure about my answer. Ask others to make your self sure”

Then you know what he was said? He said, “I thought that you’re smart, I thought you’re good in this. You already pass the final test at LIA, so why you couldn’t answer this one?”

I WAS SO MAD AT THAT TIME! Hey, what’s happened if I already graduated at LIA? Is that really matter with my answer? I told you that I was unsure! Oh gee, Rrrgh… he thinks that he’s the big boss who can snap his stapler in anyone face? Call me immature, but I do wanna bite you dude!

Okay, if you ever in this kind of situation I’m sure that you must be in a very bad mood all day long. Me too darling!

So what should I do?

Well, some says to calm down, keep your head above the water and don’t show up your emotion. Some says to act as cool as possible. But if you were I, could you do those things? Oh, don’t be so naive I know that you want to spit on their face sincerely

But roll down your sleeves darling; because you’re just too respectable to punch this kind of mood killer!

First tips from me, calm down and take a deep breath. Breath in-breath out. Inhale-exhale. Make your self comfort than try to make friend with this mood killer. I mean, don’t punch them darling LOL. Patience is the key. This way will make you as the peacemaker and put you on the top of the game.

Then if they still burn you up, you have to take the next step. Be prepared darling, because you’re gonna have some kind of unspeakable war. What’s that? It’s a kind of war, in which way you just have to speak to them as long as needed. Make them realize that they need you. Make them realize that you’re mad at them.

So, here they go the last step!! If they keep killing your mood, one thing for sure you have to IGNORE THEM! What-so-ever they did to you; what-so-ever they say about you, you just have to ignore them!

In brief, don’t be aggressive. Instead of being angry back, just pity them. Use your power of confidence to ignore them, and try my second tips- use the unspeakable war trick! Once you could look unmistakably powerful and patience you’re the winner dear.

So, remember to calm down and don’t throw around accusation. Surely you can stand up for your self.

Maturity

"...because maturity never comes too young"

mature
yes, maturity. what is the definition if maturity?
no, we're not talking about biology stuff. we're talking about maturity and age.
is 16 already mature? or 18? or mid 20?
can you get it? me? no I don't
as long as I know, mature means that you're able to choose whether good or bad for you. you know and can solve the problem by your self, and you also know how to depend on your self correctly.
from the explanation above, if I have to classify a person into maturity level there are 3 levels of maturity

First
the immature person
this kind of person is like a baby. they pretend like they don't have any problem. they pretend like everything is okay. because they don't know the world. they live for every hour has passed.
they just come up with problem, and they don't know how to solve it.
they're confuse to find a solution on their own problem.

Second
the midmature person
this kind of person is like a adolescent or some kind of teenager. they have problem, and mostly they pretend like they know how to solve it. In fact? they're nothing but a shit. they pretend to like something, in fact they like nothing but a mess. and they pretend everything is okay, in fact? while the world still spinning nothing is allrite. people had problem, and they had to cope with that.
this kind of midmature person, they just live for today. they don't even thinking about what they want to be in the next day. because they think everything is there for them.

Third
the mature person
this kind of person is a fully-grown-up person. They had problem and they solve it. they know how to cope with their problem. they know with whom they supposed to talk about their problem. THEY ARE TOTALLY KNOW ABOUT THEIR OWN SELF AND THEIR PROBLEM ALSO. they live and life for today and tomorrow

if you're asking me, "ully, which level are you in?"
I'll be proudly answer, " I'm in the second level dear"
yes, I'm in the second level. but, I'm trying my best to upgrade my level! so I could catch the third level ASAP.
what about you?
may you all have the third level of maturity



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Bonita xoxo

The art of differences

"Are we an innocent adolescent or simply addicted to sweet illusion of the world?"

Maybe I’m a kind of melancholic person, or some kind of a girl who loves to shares my heart to other, at least to a close friend. A friend of mine said that I’m a “drama queen” girl.

Okay fyi, I’m not a drama queen. I'm just a kind of person who can’t keep my problem by my self, and I need somebody to help me out or give me some suggestion,even sometimes it’s a bad suggestion and I wouldn’t do it.

But still, whatever I said about my self, my friend still said that I’m a kind of a drama queen or something. Once again, no I’m not! Is that a huge mistake to tell somebody about your problem? Is that a sin that your best buddy know about things that made you cry? You decide dude…

Girls will be girls and boys still boys. Girl usually thinks with their heart, in the other hand Boys thinks logically.

When boys said something extra sweet just like the sweetest peach in the lime tea, girls believe it-and when girls said that they believe in, they really mean it.

In other hand, boys will simply fall in lust just if they saw a pretty creature with mini skirt and white transparent shirt- for those boys who read this; you have to confess that you ever did this before. Lol-ing

Yes, girls will simply fall in love when they find out a charm boys with extraordinary way of listening and giving them advice. But boys will simply fall in lust (or also love?) when they find out girls with extraordinary way of make up, with the endorse of mini dress or something.

In this case, I just want to say that girls sometimes make a holy-sin by thrusting their ears, and boys sometimes get into trouble by only thrusting their eyes when seeing sweet creatures, like sexy girls or something.

From my explanation above, I just want to say that everybody has weaknesses. Maybe my kind of melancholic stuff is my weakness. But I’m sure all you, yes you! The cosmopolitan person, you have your own weakness.

Yes, weaknesses are also a kind of differences. Naturally, while our country is struggling with urbanization problems, overpopulation, lack of jobs, sickening traffic jam, never-ending battle between politic party, terrible pollution and worse fashion, people and society likes to judge people by the differences they made and things they have done. But so what? In this world we’re living with differences. You and I, we’re totally different! But we live in rite? When the world still spinning, flower still blooming, and farmer still cultivate the harvest, people will always talking. There always be friend and foe, hated or love it.

Once again everybody is different, but as strange as it sound, some people often refuse it.

Are we an innocent adolescent or simply addicted to sweet illusion of the world?

Well, let’s people talks about what-so-ever they want. Let they think and gossiping about what-so-ever they need. Society is a place for us to stand up for our own differences. No need to worry about differences.

In brief, dare to be different to not a crime! Dare to speak what you want is your human rights! Coco channel once said, “To be irreplaceable one supposed to be different”. May we all be irreplaceable in our way of different.

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bonita <3

DIGGING YOUR GOLD MINE OF FRIEND

"thousand friends are less, but one enemy is more than enough"

A friend of mine, call her miss D is a very quite and unfriendly person, just if you don’t know her.

Her SMIZE eyes would bite your heart tenderly, because she’ll see you extra sharp and tear up your bravery (am I too exaggerating?). But, then I know that she’s a totally a good person.

A good listener, with a crazy attitude. A good girlfriend but also an emotional person. A religious girl with an open-minded attitude.( dear miss D, you owe me so much for all of this darlaa)

Well, I’m totally wrong about her at once. Yeah, my first impression to her is not as good as my first impression to my mood healer LOL.

To be honest, miss D is actually just an ordinary friend to me before we’re end up as a room mate for 4 days. And each day we’re going insane and intimate. Just imagine the way she told me almost all of her sadness and emotion about her boyfriend, and also her dilemma with someone (censored).

Somehow I feel like she knows me for a whole of my life just like my mood healer did.

Is she my soul-mate? I mean my true friend trough the Frenemies? Yes, I’m still wondering.. .

What about my other friends? Are they just friend? Or they also my true friend? Oh geez, to be honest, I do confuse about this. DILEMA OH DILEMA. How do I cope with this?

For me, a friend means a lot. They give me power and strength to do all my activity; they’re my first driver or tukang ojek, my second home, and my third mom for me. They give me joy, comfort, and support when I need most.

They’re means a lot. What do you think?

My mom said not to thrust people 100%. Thrust them 40 % and give the rest to God.

But I think, my mom could be mistaken about this. Thrusting people for me is giving them, all that I believe, make them thrust me too. That’s why when I said that I thrust someone; I truly give them my thrust.

And, since I was about to have a close friend, I thrust them whole heartedly.

Maybe, it’s just too risky to thrust someone whole heartedly, but I do like that. Yeah even As a result, I ever in trouble of forgetting someone I ever thrust and I was just end up with kind of broken-hearted (curcol- but now I’m totally okay!)

But, In this kind of cosmocity with all the cosmomisery, finding a soul mate, true friend, spouse, girlfriend-boyfriend is like digging in the gold mine. It’ll take almost all of your passion and patience, skill and care to filter tons of black sand and find out your tiny piece of gold. Principally if you’re about to find a friend, find it with heart and don’t you ever deal with your ego. Because EGO is actually the true frenemies for you and for your supposed-to-be-friend

HAPPY FRIENDSHIP ALL, may you have a genuine friend.

*hugs and kisses*

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Bonita

Who Cares about IQ!

(this is my essay, that I wrote it with a gigantic passion, please leave your comment, so I can revise or elaborate it. THANKIIESS... :D)

 “Success is 99% perspiration and 1% inspiration”, said Thomas Alva Edison. This quotation shows that Intelligences does not play the most important role to determined people success. Albert Einstein for example, he is suffering from dyslexia--have difficulty to read, but he is being one of the greatest founders in the world. People success is not about their score in math, or even chemistry. But, more to their ability get a long well with others. I’m sure; people’s success depends on their hard work, their Emotional Intelligences and talent.

The most important thing that determined people success is hard works. Basically those who are full of initiative encompass colossal enthusiasm and bestow limitless effort in the things they do. They have always willed to achieve improvement, even as minimal to the margin as possible. Thus with sufficient hard work, they do achieve that success. Their circle of accomplishments surrounds this fixation called ‘hard work’ and that ‘hard work’ has contained gigantic amounts of work (or joules in physics terms; as to units of work). With going through and overcoming again and again the gigantic amounts of work, they will be adapted to that and in the long run, have no difficulty in surpassing themselves for they are used to the term ‘difficulty’. For those who might be bothered with the fact that intelligences are solemnly just impossible to be surpassed, think again! Hard work does surpass intelligences, especially in terms of effort. Their willingness to improve shoves them to become the spotlight in their surroundings, and achieve success easily. 

Another important thing to determine people success is their emotional intelligences. EQ, or well known as Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is not only about the way people control their emotion, know as managing emotion -- the ability to regulate emotion in both ourselves and in others ,but also about relationship management — the ability to inspire, influence, and develop others while managing conflict. Therefore, the emotionally intelligent person can harness emotions, even negative ones, and manage them to achieve intended goals. This is a kind of intrapersonal intelligences. People with this intelligence are easily to get something they want, or persuade other people to trust them. For example, my auntie is a chief manager in a famous hotel in Jakarta. In contrast, she is not really smart a school and university, but she can achieve that success. When I asked her how can she achieve success, she said, “when you can make other people trust you, and you also can maintain your emotion, you can make other people like you, and do whatever you asked for.” That’s why people who have good Emotion intelligences are easily to communicate with other people, and make friends with others. When people have good emotional intelligences, I am sure, success is on their hand. 

Last but not least, Success is about talent and the way people improve and also manage their  talent. God creates us with different kinds of talent and our job is to maintain and improve it well and make the best of it. My father for example ,he has a physical defect—only have one hand, because of an incident. But, now he is being a senior editor in Suara Pembaruan daily news paper, he ever being the vice chief editorial staff, who is a person who responsible the whole news paper everyday, and I am really proud of him. I sure the success that my father achieve, is because he is straight to improve and maintain his talent and never hear what other people talk about. He is inspire me so much, he ever want other people pity with him. He wants other people know his talent and ability to achieve success. He want to be a light in the dark, and being a person who change people mind, who says people with physical defect can not do anything, and always need help from other people. My father is a live witness, and also as a prove, when people want to maintain their ability to the max, there is always a way out to success. 

In brief, Intelligences is not play the most important role to people success. But, people’s success depends on their hard work, their Emotional Intelligences and their ability to improve and maintain their talent to the max. Every body can achieve their own success when they can do all of this way. Success is not only a word for people who have a good intelligence, but for everybody.